It’s 2021 we made it!! We can all agree that 2020 was a year that caught us off guard and had our lives flipped upside down. We watched helplessly as the crusade of numbers surged across our screens and every conversation somehow found its way to being about the dreaded COVID-19. We have all been impacted in one way or the other big and small, the perfect example of “we’re all in the same storm but different boats” and now with less than a week into the new year we have been hit with another LOCKDOWN. I don’t know about you but I have had enough, enough of watching the news and not knowing what to believe, enough of stories of people dying, enough of not being able to hang out with my family or friends in the way that I use to. I miss people and I never thought I would say this, but I miss the world we all use to live in with all its flaws.
All these things from how long a lock down will be, the vaccine and confusion we have no control over, and this might put a little dent in your “New year new me” energy but hope is not lost. This time we have experience on our hands so let’s reflect and look back.
Think back on 2020 for a minute:
What worked for you?
What didn’t work?
What would you do differently?
Asking these key 3 questions especially the last allows us to see the things no matter how small we CAN control and the way we do that is through our choices. These things that can improve our overall well-being.
So, what are some of the things we have control/a choice over and could do differently this time around?
- How we care for ourselves – now caring for ourselves isn’t just about sleek edges and a cute outfit even though they play a part in it. It’s also about being aware of what we feed ourselves mentally and physically. We have all opened the fridge door more than ever and know how easy it is to sit and scroll aimlessly for hours through Instagram, Snapchat, tick-tock then back to Instagram digesting information and learning how to move in slow motion (which I’m still trying to master). In as much as social media has the ability to make us laugh and connect with one another it also has the ability to increase our anxiety and stop us from being present. Some of the choices you can choose to make this year are adding things to your routine that makes you feel better and helps you grow. Some ideas are:
- Have a clear out of some of the pages you follow that do not support the person you’re trying to be. Don’t follow trends alone find pages that inspire you and fuel your dreams. Your mind is fertile ground always be aware of what you feed it.
- Exercise and meditate! Unfortunately for some of us, we have no choice as to where our last plate of rice will decide to make a home in our bodies, but we can keep our bodies healthy and minds clearer with some exercise. Meditation allows your mind to rest and focus. An important part of exercise and meditation is that it helps improve your sleep, lessens anxiety, makes you feel confident and releases happy chemicals in the brain!
- Stay connected! – especially during these times that we are either isolating or working/schooling from home it is easy to feel detached from your family and friends. Organise game nights with your family and friends (our personal favourite is called villagers and mafias), this can be done in person if you’re in the same household/bubble or hosted via zoom. Whichever way you may choose, choose to stay connected. We need each other to pull through.
- Ask for help – as mentioned earlier the last year has been one that has brought pain and anxiety to a lot of people and this year may not feel lighter. YOU ARE NOT ALONE! There is no one that knows it all or has it all figured out. We’re all learning as we go along so do not be afraid or embarrassed to ask for help. There are many resources and people willing and wanting to listen to you especially us here at Blossom. There’s nothing too big or too small.
- How we respond to others – Now this one can be a hard one because the words that come out of some people’s mouths is enough to either shatter your self-worth or take you 0-100 really quickly. How much you let someone influence how you feel determines how much of your power you’re giving them. Being stuck at home more than ever can make it harder to be patient with one another. So how can we make better choices on how we respond to things and those around us:
- Take your time to respond – Do not take things personally, have you ever heard of the saying “what someone says is a reflection of themselves and not you”? Sometimes it’s not about you, does it stop how it may feel? No, but it gives you a choice of how to respond. Sometimes people are carrying their own baggage and other times we may have caught them at the wrong time maybe after an argument, a long day at work where they’re not emotionally attentive. Do your best to not respond in the heat of the moment, take 5 deep breaths before you respond or where possible excuse yourself and address the issue later when you are less upset. This helps you stay in control.
- Set boundaries – boundaries are the spaces you don’t allow people to occupy. As you try to be understanding with people or helpful you must also protect yourself from those who may take advantage. The best way of doing this is by setting boundaries. An example of how to set boundaries could be with someone who calls you names and says it’s a joke “If you continue to call me names even as a joke I will have to pull away from this friendship”. Some people will get offended but do not let that make you afraid of setting boundaries. We teach people how to treat us by what we allow.
These are just a few things we can put in place that can influence our environment and experiences through these unprecedented times, you can build on it and add your own too.
What are you choosing to take control of this year? Have a conversation with your family and friends to see how they will choose to self-care this year and how they will choose to respond to those around them.
We’re in this together!
Supporting you always,